about fire poppy coaching
J. Bary Morgan is the founder of fire poppy coaching
He works with men and couples to understand relational patterns, rebuild trust, and develop the ability to stay present and connected in relationships.
why i do this work
I wanted connection.
I didn’t know how to build it.
I began to see how early experiences shape everything—
how we react, withdraw, pursue, or protect.
For a long time, I carried patterns I didn’t understand.
Some of what I had learned was costing me the very connection I wanted.
I wanted connection—but didn’t feel secure in it.
Eventually, I realized something had to change.
If you are at a similar point:
The Turning Point
I began doing my own work.
I learned how to understand my story.
How to recognize patterns.
How to respond differently in relationships.
One thing became clear:
Insight isn’t enough.
You have to learn how to live differently.
My Approach
Influenced by Sue Johnson, Terry Real, Gabor Maté and Dan Allender, I help men and couples do that work.
We focus on:
- Understanding your patterns
- Telling the truth about what’s happening
- Learning how to communicate clearly
- Staying present instead of shutting down
- Building trust over time
your guide
J. Bary Morgan is a trauma-informed care practitioner and the founder of Fire Poppy Coaching. His story-focused approach helps clients integrate their narratives and build lasting change. With a rugged tenderness, Bary helps clients understand their patterns and experience new ways of relating.
Prior to founding Fire Poppy, Bary worked in the financial services industry for 30 years. After experiencing his own difficult journey through trauma and brokenness, he shifted to help people find personal growth and discover powerful transformation.
Bary has a deep appreciation for the outdoors and nature's majestic beauty. He enjoys spending time in the mountains of Colorado and the driftless area of Wisconsin.
What This Means for You
If you’re here, you likely want something to change.
You may feel stuck.
You may feel disconnected.
You may not trust the pattern you’re in.
That’s where this work begins.
A Different Way Forward
This isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about understanding what’s been shaping you, and learning how to show up differently.